undestand your emotions 1
The following are some major symptoms of buried and repressed emotions.
- Fatigue
- Depression without an apparent cause
- Speaking of issues/interests rather than personal matters and feelings
- Pretending something doesn’t matter when inside it does matter
- Rarely talking about your feelings
- Blowing up over minor incidents
- Walking around with a knot in your stomach or tightness in your throat
- Feeling your anger not at the time something happens but a few days later
- In relationships, focusing discussions on children / money rather than talking about yourselves
- Difficulty talking about yourself
- Troubled personal relationships with family, friends, acquaintances
- A lack of ambition or motivation
- Lethargic – who cares - attitude
- Difficulty accepting yourself and others
- Laughing on the outside while crying on the inside
How to identify what you are really feeling about a person, place, situation or thing.
a) Listen To Your Thoughts and Daydreams
b) Identify Your “Little and Unimportant Hurts” – More people walk around saying it’s not important or it doesn’t matter when it is very important and a big piece of hurting emotion is buried within them. They will describe this hurt and being small and unimportant. Men tend to do this rather frequently.
c) Memories That Won’t Go Away: If you keep remembering situations, hurts that happened some time ago, you are guaranteed to have repressed emotions around this person or situation.
d) Be Specific About The Emotions You Are Experiencing: Confusion occurs when people are trying to get to know their emotions because they speak in general terms rather than specific emotions.
e)Try to identify the times when your excessive behavior was triggered and, as soon as you can, identify the emotion that is causing this behavior.
f) When What You Say and Do Is Not In Sync With What You Feel: Men and women go through many situations telling themselves that “it doesn’t really matter” or “it’s not important enough to argue about”, basically buying peace by agreeing to something that deep down they do not agree with.
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